May 9, 2014, by Ken Jorgustin
So you are completely on-board with prepping but you are frustrated because your wife is not.
If you would like to know what you can do to influence your wife towards preparedness, here’s what you need to consider:
The answer is in the following quote from Albert Einstein,
“If I had an hour to solve a problem I’d spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions.”
Before you do anything tangible, figure out WHY she’s not on-board.
When trying to get your wife into ‘preparedness’, you will need to approach the issue by asking yourself the following questions, and then after you’ve considered them carefully and honestly – formulate a plan to help influence her to get on-board.
Everyone is different, but the questions are the same, and include the following.
QUESTIONS For You To Consider About Your Wife
Are there money issues?
Nearly everyone’s budget is tight these days. If your budget is stretched too thin, could this be an issue for your wife regarding your preparedness plans?
If it is, and you believe it’s one factor in her reluctance, then think about ways to alleviate your tight budget. Some of your prepping plans or projects may be expensive while others not so much. If this is an issue, don’t start with the expensive projects (and don’t even talk about them yet).
Are there sacrifices you could make in other areas of your life (that she would also be okay with?) and/or are there ways for you to be more creative in HOW you are prepping as it relates to the money you are spending (or wish to spend)? There ARE ways to reduce the costs of being better prepared – to be frugal in your spending. You’re not going to ‘get away with’ the expensive projects until you get her on-board. Start small if you have to.
Remember that being prepared is largely about the ability to adapt with the resources you have on-hand, including your lifestyle, outlook, and risk awareness. It’s not all about the ‘stuff’.
Does she stereotype ‘preppers’?
Lots of people have warped images of what prepping is, or what preppers are, or what preppers do. This is largely to do with how the mainstream media has portrayed the ideology and lifestyle of preppers – those who are more self-sufficient, independent minded, and those who are recognizing the risks of our current ‘system’. The mainstream sadly looks upon this behavior as being ‘odd’ or even suspicious. Has she been influenced by this stereotyping? If she has, then she may be concerned what others may think about her – and maybe she doesn’t want to become outcast within her sphere of friends and family.
One solution is to assure her that you will keep a low profile about your prepping activities. Although it’s sad to say it – “Don’t go telling people” (even though you may be excited or proud about what you are doing). Some prepping actions might be mostly ‘acceptable’ and within the relative normalcy of your friends and family while other things may appear way over-the-top. These triggers are different for different people – however if this is an issue for your wife, then work with her to assure that you two won’t be labeled as such.